Whenever I read a book or article, I like to know where the author is coming from. So here is a brief look into me. I’m 40, a father, live in Aurora, CO, have a career in the healthcare field and have a master’s degree in healthcare administration.
I’m the oldest of 3 boys and I come from a conservative, Air Force-brat, raised in the church, W.A.S.P. (White Anglo-Saxon Protestant) background. So what do I have to offer my readers? It seems as though I’m just another one of those suburbanites attempting to offer my readers something they’ve already heard thousands of times. What have I endured and experienced that can add something in the lives of my readers they don’t already have? I am unique. I am not you. Therefore, you are also unique because you are not me. We both have things we can offer each other.
Despite my very stable upbringing, I have had many trials, let-downs, tragedies, frustrations and sorrows that many of you will never experience. Not only am I a father, but I am a single father. My post divorce life has given me a brand new perspective on life that I have never thought possible. With God’s help, I’ve been able to find a “Braveheart” deep inside me that was always there but has never come to the surface until I realized it. I am a totally different man than I was in the fall of 2009 when my ex-wife and I separated.
I have two of the most amazing kids any father can ask for. However, my kid’s mother has been pregnant four times. The first pregnancy ended in miscarriage and the second ended in a funeral. Because of experiencing the death of one of my children and by working in the healthcare field, the brevity of life is very real to me and I take it seriously.
Not only do I work in the healthcare field, I have gone through two careers since graduating from college in 2002. It’s been difficult changing my perspective and mindset while going through those careers. Not knowing if my family would have food on the table at times or that we might have to skip a car payment was scary. Deep within every man is a motivation to provide for his family and if that is ever questioned or taken away, he feels inadequate. I was confronted with inadequacy daily.
I’ve had to adjust. I’ve been uncomfortable. I’ve had to start from scratch. I’ve had the rug pulled out from under me. I’ve experienced the crushing reality of defeat. I’ve been at the lowest point of self-pity and worthlessness. I’ve been at the bottomless pit where the only place I could look to was up.
But I’ve also experienced real joy and happiness. I’ve become the “wounded healer” who can touch other’s lives who are going through what I’ve been through. I’ve built on my trials and have come out as a victor (with lots of help of course!). I know now that happiness shouldn’t be controlled by our surroundings. There are many rich people who are unhappy and there are many poor people who are happy. Happiness is a choice. Joy is controlled by your mindset. And happiness and joy are contagious. Start hanging around people like that and you’ll soon discover how much you want to be more like them.
I’ve come to realize that I do have control over the some of the paths my life follows. Where would we be if we had no choice in our lives? We’d have no motivation to achieve. We’d be puppets in the hands of a “higher power”. Knowing that I have control over my decisions that lead me down certain paths gives me confidence.
However, there are other paths in life where I am not in control of. These certain paths are not governed by fate, randomness or chance. That would only destine my life for failure. I would have no purpose. I’d be like a rock falling into a pit where the laws of gravity and physics would predict which direction I would take. Instead, I entrust the unexpected turns my life takes to my Maker. Yes, I am a believer and a follower of Jesus Christ. I do profess to be a Christian but even further, I am a follower of the True Path, a believer in every word in the bible and I do my best to exemplify a Christ-like life.
That is me in a nut-shell. Throughout my blog are articles I’ve written that will further explain why I believe what I believe. You will get a thorough glimpse into my psyche, my inner-self. With all that I’ve been through and because of what I believe, it is my passion to share with you my ideas, thoughts, stories, stirrings, viewpoints, values and mission. I hope that I can learn from you as well. I am an eternal student. I will never stop absorbing information from life and other people. Thanks for reading and have fun!